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My last post was a brief note about Simone Biles and the reporting around her family. I’m still watching a lot of Olympics and I’m traveling, so I’m going to supplement it with a few words about this commentary on that story and some additional thoughts.
The commentary is by Jenn Morson who has a life history similar to Biles’ in at least one important way: She was raised by parents who were not her genetic parents. And so, like Biles, she and her parents endured questions about whether their relationship was “real.” While it’s generally in line with the points I was trying to make in the earlier post, I think she adds a good deal to it because she writes from her own experience.
It’s also made me think a bit more about how to describe the question that lie at the heart of these encounters. Perhaps what is at stake here is what “parent” in its unmodified form means? Continue reading
I confess I’ve been following the Olympics pretty closely. Imagine finding something in that coverage that fits so well here? But here it is.
Apparently Simone Biles (do I need to explain that she is the finest gymnast on the US team, thought by some to be among the best ever?) was adopted by her maternal grandfather (Ron Biles) and his wife (Nellie Biles) when she was young. Her genetic mother (Ron Biles’ daughter) struggled with drug and alcohol issues.
There’s nothing secret about this, as far as I can tell. in the article I linked to, Simone Biles is quoted as saying:
When I was younger, I was adopted by my grandparents, which are now my parents” ….. “I call them Mom and Dad. Everything’s just been so normal.”
But I guess not everyone is as clear about this as she is. An NBC commentator said “They may be mom and dad but they are NOT her parents.” Continue reading
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I have been meaning to do a little current events but I’ve fallen behind. (Still seeking the right schedule.) Still, this little snippet warrants some consideration. It’s so abbreviated that it might take longer for me to explain it than it took for Sengupta to set out her original point.
So here’s the idea: Many states confer citizenship on a child based on citizenship of a parent. So (roughly speaking) if an US citizen becomes a parent, the child is a US citizen. This is true no matter where the child is born. (The US also says that a child born in the US is a US citizen, no matter the citizenship of the parents. That’s a different point–sometimes a controversial one–and a more unusual approach. It’s also not the topic of discussion here.)
You can probably already see that there is huge room for complication here. When I say “US citizen parent” what kind of parent does it mean? Legal? Genetic? Social?
But that is not the question raised by the news story. It goes in a different direction. It appears that many countries confer citizenship on children of their citizens. Continue reading
I’m not at all happy with my last post. It’s muddled and, as you might remember if you were a reader in the earlier period of this blog, I hate muddled thinking. I won’t try to fix it, but I will take another run at the topic I had in mind, perhaps from a different direction. Maybe even two different directions. Because it seems to me that the problem was that I was answering two separate questions and the failure to pull them apart is what caused trouble.
So here we go for round 2. Question one is a pretty simple one: What takes precedence in the event that some intention is inconsistent with subsequent action? There are really two ways this can happen in the contexts I’m thinking about here. One is that someone says “I won’t be a parent”–I’m taking that as clear expression of intent, and let’s assume honestly meant. But then, as things develop, the person performs as a parent. So you have intention (not a parent) at odds with action (a parent.)
The other possibility is that person says “I’ll be a parent”–and again, let’s assume sincerity– but then fails to perform as a parent. Here again you have intention (a parent) at odds with action (not a parent.) Continue reading
This post is meant to follow from a recent post on intention and point of view. You might benefit from reading that one first, but in a nutshell by point there was that from a child’s point of view, the intentions of the parents (or intended parents) matter much less than the actual actions taken. Indeed, I would go so far as to suggest that (from the child’s point of view) intentions alone do not matter at all. Only actual action matters. (I should note that I am thinking here about relatively young children.)
But that this was just thinking about the child’s point of view. Perhaps there are other perspectives to consider? In particular, what about the perspectives of the adults? (I guess here I am thinking about the adults involved in ART.) How do we weigh or think about their point of view.
I’m inclined to think that, generally speaking, intentions matter more for adults than for children, though I could be persuaded otherwise. Continue reading
In the past, the question of birth certificates (what they say/do not say) has been extremely controversial here. I suppose what this means is that it is controversial out there in the world. I didn’t really plan to address this topic quite yet, but as it is in the news, here goes.
Today The New York Times reports an important decision from a judge in Texas. In some ways the topic may seem far afield as this is really an immigration issue. It seems that Texas decided to require very specific documents in order for women giving birth there to get a birth certificate. This mean that those who did not have proper documentation of legal entry into the country couldn’t get birth certificates. Forms of identification that had been accepted were being rejected. (So you had been able to get a birth certificate with a passport, but then it changed so that you could only use a passport if it had a valid US visa.)
The point of this policy was to make it difficult (if not impossible) to get birth certificates for the children being born in the US. Continue reading