This story appeared in what was once our local paper and is now internet only. (And it looks like they picked it up from Redbook.) It’s a fine account of one’s man discovery that he and his wife needed to use a sperm donor and his thoughts about that process.
I don’t suppose I have all that much to add to it, though it ties back to lengthy discussions on this blog about sperm donors (anonymous and otherwise.) Like many people who have written here, Gary Blitt wasn’t sure how he’d feel about a child conceived with donor sperm. But as time passes, there’s no question that he is his daughter’s father. He’ll be the one to teach her to read box scores and change the diapers.
Perhaps it is true, as he says, that his sperm wouldn’t even have been as good as the donor’s was. But what is more important to me, at least, as that every day in real life he is the father of this child.
In all likelihood he has legal status as a parent, since he is married to the woman who gave birth. This is an instance where the law gets it right.
Now I cannot tell you if he and his wife used an anonymous donor or a donor who might some day be identifiable. Maybe that’s a question worth considering and maybe we should shape the law so that it encourages the latter choice. But I don’t have any doubts that, anonymous donor or not, he’s the kid’s father.