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A Very Late Appreciation of Fathers

I know that, from time to time, I get a certain amount of grief about being hard on men/fathers here.   I don’t  think most of the complaints are justified, for what that is worth.  But I also don’t want to miss this chance to talk about why it might be hard to be a good father.    (To be clear, here I mean “father” in all the depth and complexity of the social/psychological role–not simply a genetic father.  It’s obviously quite easy to be a genetic father–which is part of why I wouldn’t give too much weight to that accomplishment.)

So around Father’s Day, there were a series of provoking stories and/or posts from NPR.  They’re all accessible via Code Switch, an NPR blog about race, culture and ethnicity.   They lead me to a wonderful blog called “Daddy Doin’ Work.”  That blog is by Doyin Richards who is a Black man who is both a dad and a husband.   Continue reading

Why The Husbands Win

I’ve been teaching the cases that I’ve recently posted here–the string of cases from CA, UT and MI in which a woman gives birth and both her husband and her ex-lover want to be legal parents to the child.  In each of them the ex-lover is the genetic father of the child.   In two of the cases the husband wins decisively.   The one from CA is less clear–it is remanded for further proceedings.   But it seems very unlikely to me that the genetic father can prevail under the described test.

As I reread the cases I was struck by the ways in which the different courts justified their conclusions.   I thought it was worth summing them up here.

Before I do that, though, I want to note that none of these are really constitutional cases.  Continue reading

More on UT and Unmarried Fathers–This Time With The Marital Presumption, Too

Here’s a fairly recent UT opinion that lies right at the intersection of two lines of conversation here.   You could think of this as one more UT unmarried father case.  (There have been a whole series of those discussed here over the years.  One was the topic of yesterday’s post.)   But it is also a case about the marital presumption–something we’ve all been discussing fairly recently.

It is somewhat surprising to me that I have come across several marital presumption cases in the last months.   I don’t know if this is chance (that I ran into them), chance (that the topic came up in different states) or some sort of meaningful pattern.  Whatever it is, I can assure you that I’ve put up posts on all I have come across–I am not selecting to make a particular point.

That said, there’s nothing terribly surprising about the UT decision.   UT has a strong preference for having children raised by married couples.  (Perhaps it is worth noting that until recently that necessarily meant different-sex couples, but UT is one of those states where the restriction on access to marriage has been successfully challenged in federal court.  Continue reading

The Never-Ending Quest for Gender Equality

I think we are rightly sensitive to issues of gender equity in parenting, but it seems to me it is also necessary to think critically about them.   This was brought home to me by this story in the newspaper today.  Does equality give a genetic father the right to be present at the birth of his child, just as the genetic mother will be?    Or does the different between being the one giving birth and not being the one giving birth justify different treatment?

For anyone who thinks hard about parentage gender equity is a difficult topic.    There are so many levels of sameness and difference that figuring out what amounts to equal treatment can be tricky.

On the one hand, men and women each contribute genetic materials to a child.  On that basis one could determine that they are similarly situated and so principles of equality would suggest equal treatment is appropriate.   But on the other hand, women are pregnant and men are not.   If in this regard they are not similarly situated, then equal treatment is not warranted.  How does one fit together the sameness and the difference?   Continue reading

A Fleeting Thought About American Hustle and Parenthood

In honor of the Academy Awards I thought I would put up a brief post about parenthood in the movies.    I’ve written on the general topic (and more broadly, parenthood in popular culture) in the past.   Since I believe the legal definition of parent is socially constructed, it’s depiction in popular culture can be important.

Anyway, on the eve of the Oscars I got to see American Hustle.   (For the record, it was nominated for ten Oscars, won absolutely nothing, but I thought it was quite good.)   It’s about a con artist–Irving Rosenfeld (played by Christian Bale–who is pretty much a small-time, low-life sort of guy.  He’s ensnared by the FBI and ends up being used to ensnare increasingly valuable (and generally corrupt) defendants.  Based on a true story, as they say.

Rosenfeld is a complicated character.   He’s a crook.  He preys (at the outset) on other crooks.   He has both a mistress and a wife.   It’s hard to say he is admirable. Continue reading

Another Instance of the Marital Presumption–this from CA

A little while back I wrote about a Michigan case involving the marital presumption.  (Briefly stated, the marital presumption means that when a married woman gives birth to a child her spouse (and these days that can  mean her wife) is presumed to be the legal parent of the child.    That’s enough for now (you can read up on it in the earlier post).  I’ll just also note that 1) all states have some form of the marital presumption and 2) it’s a presumption about LEGAL parentage–who is the legal parent of the child.)

As I’ve said, different states have different versions of the presumption.   It can be easier or harder to rebut, depending on where you are, for example.   MI, we now know, has a version that allows a husband to invoke it even if his (ex-)wife doesn’t want him to.  This means he can claim legal parentage of a child that is genetically related to his wife and another man.     Continue reading

And then there’s media coverage of studies……

I wrote a recent post about studies–social science studies about parenting, etc.   I sort of feel like I’m in a “can’t live with them, can’t live without them” sort of spot–they frustrate me in many ways, but I’m not prepared to say we don’t need them or shouldn’t consider them.

Perhaps the point I’d make (though you can just go read that post) is that we need to view them critically–all of them, even the ones with conclusions we like.   There are, after all, better and worse studies.  Continue reading